This Parenting Tactic Is Ruining Our Society
Attachment parenting is the term used for a style of parenting that focuses on the nurturing connection that parents can develop with their children. That nurturing connection is viewed as the ideal way to raise ‘secure’, ‘independent’, and ‘empathetic’ children.
What are the aspects of attachment parenting?
Whilst there is no actual rule book that determines the do’s and don’ts of this practice, there are many characteristics of the practice that can be listed.
1. Breastfeeding is somewhat the foundation and lays out the cards. Whilst many parents only breastfeed their new-borns when hungry, this AP (attachment parenting) encourages nursing whenever the child feels like it. Children should be nursed on cue, before the stage of crying. Whereas solid food may replace caloric needs in the future, nursing is still used for comfort and nurturing.
2. Do not let the child ‘cry out’. A lot of parents who practice AP consider allowing a child to cry out as some sort of emotional child abuse. A parent’s role in tantrums is to comfort the child, not to get angry or punish them.
3. Parents are to sleep in the same bed with their children. This shared bed routine or Co-sleeping encourages parents to respond to their children’s needs at night just as they do during the day. Parents are also encouraged to explore the variety of different sleeping arrangements, and to choose the approach that best allows them to be responsive at night.
4.Discipline is never meant to be physical or as a shame tactic. Rather disciplining through play and to not force apologies is very much encouraged.
So how can we rely on this method of parenting as the one true form? An easy way to establish the benefits of a certain parenting tactic is to look at other parents, how they practice it, and of course how their children turn out.
Who practices this parenting technique?
Angelina Jolie, Salma Hayek, Beyoncé, and Maggie Gyllenhaal are among the parents who practice this parenting technique. What do they all have in common?
Apart from the stroller spurn and breastfeeding preferment, they all shunned and attempted to publicly shame Donald Trump. Obviously, this is not the first time that celebrities have blindly stepped onto the populist bandwagon but the correlation is uncanny.
Why is a parenting technique a political statement?
Like the trend for strange the concoction of “green” smoothies, attachment parenting posits that the modern world has corrupted what was once pure, through scientific intervention. Anti-intellectualism plays a large role in this.
The whole aspect of AP is a social justice movement. A ‘liberation’ away from social norms and traditionalism. The problem with this however lies rather deep in psychological development. Whilst many claim that AP is a good solution for parenting, as it teaches children to look at the world with comfort and peace, is this really something we want children only to become?
A large number of Millennials and members of Gen Z have been brought up with alternative parenting methods, in comparison to traditional parenting methods. What do we see in the behaviour of these young people? We see absolute degeneracy.
Millennials and Gen Z use a naïve and nihilistic approach to many things, including their aspects to future career paths and politics. The offense taken through statements only meant in kind thought, for improvement, show the lack in self-confidence. The view of another was never heard of, as the child was raised to have their own way and to be constantly paid attention to.
Likewise, the tantrums that still occur in these young adults are concerning and an obvious absence of discipline. None of these children were ever given the term “tough”, rather a solution was always talked out and compromises were always made to suit their narrative.
Attachment parenting has produced a generation (with another on the way) that cannot cope with modern day society. Traditional parenting is being branded as “abusive” and “controlling” due to a course of boredom. When will people understand that raising children with an easy method does not make the world around them easier? Attachment parenting is ruining our society.